Hey everyone,
Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about how to navigate the holidays with my special needs family. I’ll admit, I used to stress over making everything perfect—the spotless house, the beautiful Christmas tree, the gifts piled high. But after 15 years, I’ve realized none of that really matters.
What truly sticks with me are the moments of love and laughter—the times when we shared joy, not the times I was running around trying to make things “just right.” My special needs child has taught me that what my family needs most is me—calm, happy, patient, and present.
So, here are some things I’ve learned along the way that might help you create a more relaxed, joyful holiday with your special needs family:
My Tips for a Magical Holiday Season
1. Keep a Daily Schedule
It’s so easy to lose track of time during the holidays, and for our kids, that can create anxiety. A simple schedule can help keep the days predictable and stress-free.
2. Prep Ahead
Get as much as possible done before the holidays start—decorating, shopping, even wrapping gifts. This frees up your time to actually enjoy the season with your family.
3. Let Your Kids Help Plan Meals
Show your child the holiday menu and ask for their input. They’ll feel more involved, and it helps ease the transition from their usual routine.
4. Go Shopping Together
Holiday shopping can be a great bonding experience. It’s fun, builds confidence, and helps them feel part of the preparations.
5. Don’t Overdo the Gifts
Trust me on this—less is more. Too many gifts can overwhelm our kids. Stony only manages to open 2-3 presents at a time, so we keep it simple.
6. Make Your Own Traditions
Traditions are great, but sometimes they don’t fit our unique families. Adapt them or create new ones that work for you. Life changes, and that’s okay!
7. Play Simple Games Together
Games like bingo, charades, or easy board games are the moments your family will remember most. Keep it simple and focus on having fun together.
8. Encourage Card Writing
Help your child write Christmas cards or letters. It’s not only a lovely tradition but also calming and a great way for them to process emotions during the holidays.
9. Don’t Overhype Santa or Gifts
Talking about Santa or presents every day can build up too much excitement, which can backfire. Keep the lead-up to Christmas calm and low-pressure.
10. Teach the Joy of Giving
Take your child to a dollar store or thrift shop to pick out small gifts for family members. Help them wrap the gifts or make a card. It’s a great way to shift the focus from receiving to giving.
11. Use an Advent Calendar
An advent calendar is an awesome way to help kids track the days until Christmas. It’s especially helpful for kids who struggle with time perception.
12. Keep Gatherings Simple
New faces and unexpected events can be a lot for our kids. Keep gatherings small and familiar to create a stress-free environment.
13. Listen to Christmas Music Together
Turn on some holiday tunes and sing along in the car or at home. It’s such an easy way to bring joy into your day.
What Really Matters
At the end of the day, it’s not about having a perfect holiday—it’s about the love you share with your family. The decorations, the food, and the presents are just extras. What matters most is you—being calm, present, and making time to connect with your loved ones.
I hope these tips help make your holidays a little less stressful and a lot more magical.
Wishing you all a season full of love, laughter, and joy!
